“US WOMEN ON OUR OWN”

“US WOMEN ON OUR OWN”
Friday, June 12, 2020 by Leona Choy

A good friend who has recently experienced the loss of her husband wrote me about her experience of the Lord's provision. In her desire to finally move on with her life as she knew her husband would have wanted, she had purchased a load of heavy river rock for her garden project. But she had to pick it up at Home Depot.

"I didn't know how I could possibly do it by myself. In my morning prayers I asked God for what I thought I needed—a "man in a truck" to help. Since no man with a truck knocked on my door before I left, I realized I would have to do it alone. Instead of providing "a man in a truck," the Lord gave me surprising ability to load the heavy rock into and out of my car trunk. Really amazing!

"That's when I understood that God Himself is truly my "man in a truck" who helps me do alone what I need to do when there is truly no one to help me. My age and ailments are limiting me, but when I pray asking the Lord to be my husband during times of special need, God enables me to do it. Since then, when things get overwhelming and I'm exhausted and short on energy, I always pray for a "man in a truck" and anticipate God surprising me by how He Himself is going to look after me and provide what I need since I am a woman on my own."

What a loving, tender heart the Lord has for us women on our own who struggle with leaky faucets, roof repair, car maintenance, and the seemingly endless man-sized decisions our late husbands used to handle! Yes, most of us women on our own know exactly what my friend is talking about.

Psalm 68 calls God “a father of the fatherless, a defender of the widows....” In Old Testament times people were warned, “Do not take advantage of a widow or an orphan. If you do and they cry out to Me, I will certainly hear their cry.” The poor, the widow, the orphan, the alien [the stranger in the land], in fact, all defenseless people truly are objects of God's special concern and providential care.

My guess is that not all of my blog viewers, especially the many new subscribers, are aware of the books for widows and widows' support groups which I've written to help women navigate the new terrain of learning to live alone after the loss of a spouse. I'm by your side to help you move toward a healthy adjustment leaning on the Lord.

I quote myself below from one of my three published books written to help such precious women:

“I've been fatherless, even an orphan for many decades myself, and now a widow for 28 years. On all three counts I believe I've qualified for God's special loving attention. The Lord has uniquely taken up my vulnerable case and has become my constant Defender, Protector, Shield, and Fortress.

"In some cultures, it is still the custom for a widow to go back to her father's house, if he were still living and had resources to care for her. She came under his protection again and looked to him for counsel and the supply of her needs, as she did when she was growing up in his household. We don't usually do that in our culture.

"However, we too, as women on our own are invited to go back to our Heavenly Father's house where we are under His protection and look to Him for guidance for our future. As the King's daughters we can count on God's unlimited resources for the supply of all our needs! We are safe and happy in our Father's house.

“An even closer bond is available to us. In Isaiah 54 it is written that '...your husband is your Maker, whose name is the Lord of hosts....' Although the passage was originally written for the nation of Israel, the principle may apply more broadly.

“Jesus is presented in the New Testament as the Bridegroom and the Church as His bride. The individual believer is part of that bride. Our personal relationship to Jesus is that of love. Such love is strengthened as we who are women on our own lean heavily on Christ who now completely fills the gap left by our husband.

I'm not abandoned to fend for myself. I can share the intimate happenings of my life with my Maker, my husband. I can talk over my burdens, problems, and concerns with Him. I can share my joys and my hopes. I can submit my plans and decisions to Him and follow His perfect leading.

“Lord, I hereby take You as my lawful husband and provider. I DO! And death will never part us!”

Among my blog viewers there could be hundreds of us women on our own. And I'm sure we all know still more “singled out” women, as I call them among our family and friends. Those who have read my books and been encouraged in turn want to give a copy to a friend or family member who has suffered a fresh loss.

On this website you can read a review of each of my three books on this topic. Go from the opening Home page to my BOOKSTORE section for ordering information. Phone me or email me [email protected] with your order, if that is more convenient. The three books for loss of spouse are NOT ALONE, THE WIDOW'S MIGHT, and SINGLED OUT FOR GOD'S ASSIGNMENT (new edition).

Let's embrace our sisters in Christ who are women on their own with love and understanding and helpful resources.

Comments

Chris Tupper From Redding, CA At 6/16/2020 6:13:43 PM

Dear Leona, Thank you for printing this again. I sure ask for "my man in a truck" often and he never disappoints! I am sending a copy of this to my cousin who lost her husband last year and also introducing her to you and your many wonderful, down-to-earth blogs. I pray that all is well with you.

Reply by: Leona Choy

Good to hear from you, Chris. All is well despite the "leaking energy" of my aging earth suit--95 on the 22nd. I'm so thankful for successful surgery enabling me to keep loving and serving the Lord as long as He wants to use me for His glory in the land of the living.God bless you, my friend.

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